Emotional Intelligence

18 Oct 2019, 12:00 // Matt Chisem

Hey lads 

Hope you are all doing well and counting down the days till half term! So I thought I would chat to you guys about something that I've really been working on over the past few years and that is emotional intelligence. Emotional intelligence, according to the dictionary, is 'the capacity to be aware of and express ones emotions'. Here's two useful ways that emotional intelligence can be increased: 

1. Self awareness- 

'Keep a firm grasp on both your character and your teaching'- 1 Timothy 4:16 (The Message) 

It is so incredibly useful to be aware of thoughts, places and feelings that trigger certain emotions and reactions within us. For example, there's certain pieces of music I can't listen to without crying, and feelings of inadequacy when I lose in competitions. Being aware of how our unique emotions work means we can deal with them much more effectively. 

2. Legitimising emotion- 

'So God created mankind in His image, in the image of God he created them'- Genesis 1:27

For centuries, men in particular have been taught that emotions signify weakness and to suppress the emotional responses they have. Jesus' manhood looked very different. He cried (John 11:35), he got anxious (Luke 22:44), he prioritised rest (Luke 8:23), he got angry (Matthew 21:12). We are made in the image of God and therefore we are permitted to have a Jesus like encounter with our emotions. Emotions were made by God so that we might become more like Jesus. To suppress our feelings is to suppress Christ within us. 

Hope some of that helped! If you want to chat more about emotional intelligence, give me a text on 07939007302 and we can go for coffee. 

Matt