Perfectionism

14 Nov 2018, 14:17 // Lucy Green

 

I think I imagined that perfectionists are people who are always Instagramming perfect looking brunch. They have a tidy bedroom, their outfits are always on point and their lives seem “perfect”.  I am sure some of those people are perfectionists but I have slowly been realising that in fact...that’s not just what makes a perfectionist. In fact, I am a perfectionist! My life certainly does not seem perfect and my bedroom is always messier than I’d like. I’d like to think my outfits are on point, I’ll leave that one for you ladies to decide.

 

What I have come to notice is that perfectionism has stopped me from just giving things a try, even if it goes really badly.

 

It’s getting to the point where you are all thinking... what even is perfectionism? Well, by definition it is ‘refusal to accept any standard short of perfection.’ Whether or not perfection exists is a matter of philosophy and that is a discussion for another time.

 

The question I’ve asked myself is what effect does this have on my relationship with Jesus?

It can cause us to hide when we feel as though we don’t “have it together”. Maybe avoiding doing quite time in case God gives us a telling off. When we look to scripture what did Adam and Eve do when they ate the apple from the tree? They hid.

 

Genesis 3:8-10

Then the man and his wife heard the sound of the Lord God as he was walking in the garden in the cool of the day, and they hid from the Lord God among the trees of the garden. But the Lord God called to the man, “Where are you?”

10 He answered, “I heard you in the garden, and I was afraid because I was naked; so I hid.”

 

A lot of the time we doing much better in our walk with Jesus than we give ourselves credit for. Maybe it is time to spend some time with God and get a reality check.

 

Something I identified this week is that I have been believing the lie that God withholds His goodness from us. Him giving us His time is like that moment where a child sits on Santa’s lap in those Christmas films and he asks “have you been naughty or nice?”. At this point God either gives or withholds His goodness from us. What it tells us in the scriptures in Psalm 27:13-14 (MSG) is:

 

I’m sure now I’ll see God’s goodness

    in the exuberant earth.

Stay with God!

    Take heart. Don’t quit.

I’ll say it again:

    Stay with God.

 

We know from scripture that we will see God’s goodness. The temptation when we feel like we have been more ‘naughty than nice’ is to hide ourselves from God. When we do this, remember there is no way of us escaping God and take note of the things that God says to you are causing you to hide.

 

My takeaway for you

1)   Ask God, “Lord tell me, what are the things in my life that are making me feel as though I need to hide from you?”

2)   Use mistakes as a chance to learn! Try a new type of quite time, do something a bit different, you don’t have to be incredible at something the very first time you do it. 

3)   When we believe that God is withholding his goodness from us it is easy to be tempted to try to earn God’s affection towards us. Remember that it tells us in the Psalm that you will see God’s goodness.