There are many ways in which questions concerning pain can be raised. It can be because of personal loss and suffering or an interest in the issue of theodicy, to name but two. However, regardless of the way the question is raised, it normally comes down to a moral complaint against God.
“How could You allow this to happen?” The complaint is against God’s moral character.
“Can I really trust God if I see this happen?” But if you are sure that you can trust God, regardless of the pain you find yourself in, there is no temptation to turn you away, as you realize God is the only one who can help.
Firstly, let’s deal with the argument against God’s existence. If you argue from the existence of evil to the non-existence of God (i.e. “Because there is so much suffering in the world, God cannot exist”), you are assuming the existence of an absolute moral law in order for your argument to work. To discern evil you are required to decide what is good and evil in accordance with a moral law. If there is such a law this would also mean that there is such a God, since God is the only one who could give us such a law. And if there is such a God to give us this law, then the argument itself is flawed, since you have had to assume the existence of God in order to argue that God doesn’t exist. It is an attempt to invoke the existence of an absolute moral law without invoking the existence of an absolute moral law giver, and it cannot be done. In other words the objection is not a valid one.
Secondly, we must also ask the question: What would it take to create a loving world void of evil? A world in which love is capable of meaningful expression and experience would also imply a world in which there is choice. If someone tells you that they love you, those words mean something because they are freely given. If you learned that someone had told you they loved you but that they had been forced to say it, their words would not mean very much. Thus, if we want to speak of a loving world, we must also speak of a world in which choices are exercised. And in such a world, there is also the possibility of choosing a course of action that is not loving, i.e. evil.
evil a by-product of choice?
While these observations are helpful in looking at the contradictions behind the questions of God and suffering, I do not think they get at the heart of the question people most commonly ask, namely: Can I trust God even when faced with great evil? Is God morally trustworthy? Can I trust God even if I don’t understand what is happening?
These are profound questions, and whole books could be written about them. But I will offer one more thought. Maybe the reason we question God’s moral character when bad things happen is that we live our lives largely independent from God on a daily basis.
In other words, we struggle to trust God in times of trouble because we do not really trust God when things are going well. Maybe we struggle with suffering so much in the West because we are so comfortable most of the time that we feel we don’t need God.
We do not rely on God on a daily basis, and so we do not really know God. When suffering comes along, therefore, it is not so much that it takes us away from God, but that it reveals to us that we have not really been close to God in the first place. So challenge your friends if they’re saying that God is not doing anything in their pain to trust God in the good before they need him in the bad.